Sometimes It Is Better To Have The Questions

I remember a dramatic scene in a Canadian TV show featuring a doctor and raging patient. The doctor was trying to diagnose a patient’s condition. The patient was irritable and cranky. At one point, the patient lashed out against the doctor, saying “You Docs have all the answers, don’t you!?” The doctor replied, “No, I don’t have the answers, but I do have the questions.”

Over the past few months, I have written about things being stripped away in my life (home life with my partner, my home, my work) and the awareness that none of these things are what or who I am. As I process the unfoldings, I have been blessed with the opportunity to ask myself some questions, some of those questions I have shared in previous passages. But I wanted to summarize them here, in one article.

The first set of questions are from a grieving state; that part of me that is sensing loss and that is grieving that loss. Those questions include:

·         What will be left when I get through this?

·         What will I look like?

·         What will I feel like?

·         What will remain?

But then, another more hopeful set of questions emerged that looks at the situation and unfoldings through a different lens. Those questions include:

·         What will emerge?

·         What could possibly be in store for me?

·         What is life choreographing for me?

·         Where is life leading me?

·         What does life want for me?

·         What is life GIVING me?

The questions alone have a healing affect. The answers to the questions are somewhat irrelevant. The awareness of the questions themselves brings hope. The questions ground me in a trust that life will provide for me. I am brought an awareness that I don’t need the answers. I am reminded that all I need do is allow life to unfold on its terms and to remain at peace with its unfoldings. Life will reveal itself to me; I need not force it.

Robert Meagher has been ordained as an Interfaith Minister and certified as a Sacred Attention Therapy (SAT) Therapist. Robert is the Founder and Spiritual Director for Spiritual Guidance and Co-Founder of the Center for Human Awakening.