Spiritual Guidance Blog

In the summer of 2013, Richard Harvey and I embarked on a journey to develop and launch an online training program for Sacred Attention Therapy (SAT). After an initial series of videoconference calls, we established the training was intended for 3 audiences:

• therapists – psychotherapists, counselors, and other healing practitioners
• people who want to train to become SAT therapists
• seekers who wish to practice SAT for their own personal growth and spiritual development

In earnest we began our collaboration. Richard started writing the lectures and supporting documents; in parallel he recorded the lectures. I turned my attention to figuring out the technology end of the equation: What platform would we host the training on? How would students be enrolled? What would the student experience look like? Etc. In parallel, I served as a second eye for the lectures and supporting documents.

The process was daunting. Month after month Richard toiled over the lecture material and supporting documents. I would make a discovery and progress in one area of the technology equation, only to be set back with the realization of the challenges, shortcomings, and/or glitches with the approach being considered. There were times when the entire process seemed out of reach.

But we persisted and in January 2015, SAT online training, Level 1, was launched. Since that time students from around the world have applied and enroled in this progressive, radical, and innovative psycho-spiritual psychotherapeutic training program. Very soon after Level 1 was launched, Richard and I talked about developing Level 2 of the training program.

Four years later, with many of the same challenges we faced in Level 1 training development and production, Level 2 of SAT Online Training has been launched. Level 2 has a distinctly different look and feel. The content is very different, but a natural extension of Level 1 training, and the lectures themselves have a very different look and feel to them.

When Richard sent me the final written material for the Level 2 course, he expressed great joy that this Level of the training had been completed. Four years of hard work had come to conclusion—it had ended. I smiled along with Richard at his, at our, sense of accomplishment. Indeed, there was a great sense of accomplishment knowing that all our hard work had finally come to fruition.

For me, however, there was an overwhelming sense that this journey, with SAT Online Training, Level 2, had only just begun. Yes, the course material was completed, developed, packaged, and launched; but now the journey of sharing this progressive, radical, and innovative psycho-spiritual psychotherapeutic training program with the world would begin.

This ending and beginning with SAT Online Training, Level 2, got me thinking about how we treat endings and beginnings in our lives. How do we deal with endings? Do we resist endings? Do we run away? Do we loathe endings? Or do we embrace endings? Do we celebrate endings? And what about beginnings? How do we treat beginnings? Are they reason or cause for joy? Concern? Fear? Of course the answer to any of these questions may differ, depending on the situation. But, in general, how do you treat or deal with beginnings and endings?

Birth and Death

Is there any more poignant metaphor for beginnings and endings than the societal metaphor of life and death. Conventional wisdom has us being born to start our life, and dying to end our life. It was not until my 30s that I questioned this story of birth and death.

I can’t remember exactly where I heard  the following, but it was either on a radio or TV show many years ago. The host of the radio or TV show was sharing that many of the great faith and spiritual traditions share the common pedagogy that when we die, as our soul leaves this realm, we pass through a dark tunnel but we see a light at the end of the tunnel. Many spiritual and faith traditions indoctrinate their faithful to “go to the light” upon their passage to the mythological heaven. The host of the show then shared their ponderings about what it must be like for a newborn child to pass through the birth canal. The newborn child may experience a dark tunnel but see or sense a light at the end of the tunnel. The host of the TV show asked if is was possible that the process of death as we commonly know it was merely a passage way from one life, one ending, to a rebirth or new beginning?

If this be so, is there really an ending or beginning? I have heard it said that death is not the end of life and birth is not the beginning. Life always was, always is, and will always be.

The Flow of Life

Is it possible that death and birth, endings and beginnings, are the natural flow of never-ending life? What happens when we examine these matters from our mind versus our heart? When we open up our heart center, do death and birth allow us to see endings and beginnings differently?

Robert Meagher has been ordained as an Interfaith Minister and certified as a Sacred Attention Therapy (SAT) Therapist. Robert is the Founder and Spiritual Director for Spiritual Guidance and Co-Founder of the Center for Human Awakening.

Gene Roddenberry’s immortal words at the beginning of the original Star Trek television series, “The Final Frontier,” ushered in each episode of this timeless space odyssey. The final frontier referred to in Star Trek was space.

From an earthly perspective, space does indeed seem like the final frontier. We humans seem to have exhausted our exploration and discovery of planet earth. What’s next? Well, the final frontier of course! Space, outer space, the great mystery. What’s there? What’s really there? What have we to discover?

But what if there’s a different frontier to be explored and discovered? A frontier that offers us everything we ever imagined and ever wanted. What if this final frontier is actually staring us right in the face, metaphorically speaking.

This final frontier I am referring to came into focus during a period of tribulation. I was troubling myself with a situation that seemed rather significant and important. I felt I was faced with making a decision about how to handle the situation. After several days of pontification, I welcomed a teaching from Richard Carlson, Ph.D., to enter my awareness that brought me some peace. The teaching is, “Don’t sweat the small stuff. And remember, it’s all small stuff.”

As I laughed at myself, and how I allowed a situation to consume me. I was also reminded how powerful our minds are and how this frontier, the mind, may just be the ‘final frontier’ that Gene Roddenberry was referring to.

The mind is an extraordinary construct. It is also a rather persistent fabric of our imagination. In reality, in truth, there is no mind that is separate from the One Mind. But we have studied and practiced well the way of separative minds and thought. The more we practice using this illusory ‘mind,’ the more powerful it becomes. The more we turn to it for our very existence.

As many who have come before have realized, the mind may be our final frontier. The mind may be the final search, the final discovery. This illusory ‘mind’ may just be the last refuge and our doorway to peace. But it is not an understanding of the mind that is needed, it is the very thing the mind does not want us to do…to let it go.

And the ancient teachings know the method to letting go of the mind. The age-old practice of meditation is such a way. In meditation, we are given a window on ‘no thought.’ We are given a mirror on our mind. We are given an opportunity to simply observe our mind and its raucous nonsense and effervescent musings. When we practice the art of observing our mind in action, and we practice it consistently enough, we do begin to awaken to the teaching “Don’t sweat the small staff. And remember, it’s all small stuff.”

Robert Meagher has been ordained as an Interfaith Minister and certified as a Sacred Attention Therapy (SAT) Therapist. Robert is the Founder and Spiritual Director for Spiritual Guidance and Co-Founder of the Center for Human Awakening.

When I was a little boy, I learned how to speak English. Speaking became my primary way of communicating with others. I was taught how to communicate verbally so that I could interact with others and let my needs and wants be known.

As I grew into adolescence, I was taught how to refine my speech to fully express myself. Expressing myself in verbal speech spilled over into the written word. As I progressed through adolescence and entered into the world of higher education, expressing myself verbally and in writing became encouraged, prized, and rewarded. I remember during one particular university semester, several different professors encouraged me time and time again to “Write more, go deeper. I want you to express yourself more fully and deeply.”

After graduating from university, entering both adulthood and the workforce, written and verbal communication took on a life of its own. Writing and publishing articles and books, speaking at conferences around the world, all became the new norm. The expectations grew and so too did the stakes!

All through my youth, adolescence and adulthood I was oriented toward silence and stillness. Secretly I pondered solitude in all its glorious possibilities. As I raced my way through my career, and enjoyed more success in my written and verbal communication, inside I was conflicted. I never understood what all the fuss was about regarding the written or spoken word. And public speaking was losing its luster. All around me was the messaging to ‘speak up!’ Professional endeavors at the time also confronted me with the ever-increasing opportunity to defend my views and enter into dialogue that was nothing more than conflict veiled in the name of professional development and advancement. I was tired of it all!

In 2009 when I left Corporate Canada, I discovered a way through life that allowed me to embrace silence, stillness, and solitude. And yet, even in this new, very different, milieu there remained the ever-present call to verbal and written communication and dialogue that sometimes was, once again, conflict veiled in the name of development and advancement.

The transition from Corporate Canada to ministry since 2009 has allowed me to let go of so much, including my need to engage in the societal norms and expectation regarding verbal and written communication. Yes, I still write. Yes, I still do public speaking. I facilitate many groups each week. But all this communication is offered in service to the Divine, rather than ego-aggrandizement. I am becoming less and less interested in casual conversation and I am completely disinterested in any form of conflictual dialogue and defense.

Many have written about how intimacy and communion thrive in silence and stillness; people like Anthony Storr, Michael Harris, Robert Kull, Gabriel Garcia Marquez, May Sarton, Ralph Waldo Emerson, Ruth Haley Barton, Richard Harvey, et. al. I experienced this first-hand on a ski vacation to a very popular ski resort in Canada, Whistler Mountain. One day I took the chairlift to the top of Whistler Peak, found a secluded spot and just sat there! With stillness all around me, and the wind whistling, I found a profound presence in the stillness. It was as if the wind was speaking to me. There was presence in solitude. There was sound in silence.

This intimacy and communion with life, through silence and stillness, I offer to the Divine in sacred service. The primary means for this offering are the psychotherapy practice and groups I facilitate. I am given the opportunity to listen…to truly listen! True listening embraces a shared experience, a felt experience with the other. Listening to their voice, listening to what their gestures and physical movements are telling me. If I listen carefully enough, a connectedness and synergy arises. A truth emerges.

Today, I am far more interested in listening than speaking or writing. I am more interested in stillness, silence, and solitude. In stillness and silence is everything I need and want. Solitude is not about whisking myself away to a secluded space or place. Solitude is about coming to rest in peace in my true, authentic self. I can easily be in solitude among 100 people as I can in an isolated setting 100s of miles from civilization.

Alas, in truth, I am coming to rest in a very peaceful place of knowing that I have nothing more to say…and I couldn’t be happier!

Robert Meagher has been ordained as an Interfaith Minister and certified as a Sacred Attention Therapy (SAT) Therapist. Robert is the Founder and Spiritual Director for Spiritual Guidance and Co-Founder of the Center for Human Awakening.

There is an old saying, “We learn what we want to teach. And we teach what we want to learn.” A recent experience made this wonderful teaching come to life.

I have recently been blessed to teach English to students of other languages (TESOL; what used to be called ESL). The students of other languages in this case are Chinese children between the ages 6 - 12. A given student’s ability to speak English varies widely. Fortunately, the classes are always one-on-one and provide ample opportunity for focused attention on the individual student’s needs.

With few exceptions, classes focus on speaking English, saying words and short sentences. More advanced students are encouraged to engage in conversation and expand their vocabulary. For a lucky few, grammar is brought into the class environment.

Being a native English speaker, speaking and writing in the English language feels quite natural. However, something that has never felt natural to me is English grammar. Subject, object, predicate, adjective, verb, adverb, conjunction, etc. Sometimes it feels like I am speaking another language when I start to use grammatical terms. Needless to say I have struggled with grammar much of my life. For the most part I memorized the rules but it never came natural to me. So when the opportunity to teach grammar to Chinese children presented itself, memories of my own struggles with grammar came rushing in.

But this time around, something quite interesting emerged. As I prepared myself to teach grammar, I ended up teaching myself (stated with the utmost humility). The more I taught grammar, the more I learned grammar. And the more I learned grammar, the more respect and appreciation I had for grammar. And the more respect and appreciation I gained for grammar, the more I enjoyed it.

The experience brought the ancient teachings come to life: “We learn what we want to teach. And we teach what we want to learn.” Perhaps more importantly, I was reminded of the teaching that we and others learn by what we are teaching. If we teach love, we and others learn love. If we teach joy, we and others learn joy. We learn whatever it is we are teaching. The implications for everyday life are profound.

How do we walk through life? What are we teaching? What are we learning?

Robert Meagher has been ordained as an Interfaith Minister and certified as a Sacred Attention Therapy (SAT) Therapist. Robert is the Founder and Spiritual Director for Spiritual Guidance and Co-Founder of the Center for Human Awakening.

Ten years ago I was living a very different life than I am today. Ten years ago I was at the zenith of my corporate Canada career. I was serving as a Division Head in a prominent company making a 6-figure salary. I lived a fast-paced life. I lived a life full of plenty—plenty of responsibility, plenty of stress, plenty of material possessions, plenty of debt, and plenty of ego-appeasing rewards.

Amidst the fast-paced living and life of plenty was a festering and growing awareness that I was unhappy. Even though I tried to blame everything and everyone around me for my unhappiness, I knew at a deep level that my soul was dying. And I knew that if I did not change my life, not only would I never be happy, but I had a sense (albeit delusional) that my soul would die. My fear of change had lessened to the point that I was now more afraid of my life staying the same.

So in August 2009, I did the unimaginable. I left corporate Canada—all its appeal, all its societal accolades, all its monetary rewards, and all its entrapments. I decided in August 2009 to set myself adrift and explore a new way of living and seeing the world I was living in.

Within 1 month of my departing corporate Canada, my extraordinary transformation accelerated. I was guided to ministry and to re-initiate my study of psychology. First came my study of theology and divinity that led to my ordination as an Interfaith Minister the following year. In parallel, I began studying psycho-spiritual psychotherapy and was eventually certified as a Sacred Attention Therapy Therapist in 2015.

During the 6-year period from 2009-2015, I sub-consciously and unconsciously divested myself of much of my way of life prior to 2009. As new ways of living and seeing the world I was living in came into focus, an entirely new way of living started to take hold. As the years went on I felt and grew more in alignment with my true, authentic self and calling. A trust in life grew over me that allowed me to experience more peace in any one day than I had experienced in the entire 40 years prior to leaving corporate Canada in 2009.

But one last reminder of my corporate Canada days hung around, and that was my debt. My lifestyle prior to 2009 was one that not only numbed me into complacency but made me think that it was quite normal to have debt. As my lifestyle began to change significantly, post 2009, so too did other factors, like income. It became less and less likely that my debt would be paid off under my new lifestyle. So what to do?

Of the numerous options available to bring all aspects of my life, finally, into alignment, I chose an approach to financial restructuring that allowed me to divest myself of my debt. It was an emotional decision to take the approach I did and it was blessed with many gifts of awareness and opportunities to deepen into my inner work to unravel the teachings being offered to me.

Yes, there was guilt. Yes, there was shame. Yes, there was relief. Yes, there was the myriad of sensations and feelings associated with having lifted a very heavy burden off my back—one that had been hanging around for more than a decade. But another awareness came to the forefront that took precedence over all else.

The decision to divest myself of my debt from my corporate Canada days was a final step in letting go of the last vestiges of the world I once knew. I now felt in full and complete alignment with a new way of living and seeing the world I live in. The alignment was freeing. In part because a perceived burden had been lifted from my shoulders, but more so because now I was living in alignment with all other aspects of my life.

I was reminded of the ancient teaching that when what we say and what we do is not in alignment, dis-ease results. I realized that for many years following my departure from corporate Canada I was still in a state of dis-ease because what I was saying and what I was doing was not in full alignment. While the initial steps to bring myself into full alignment, to let go of the last vestiges of the world as I knew it, was bumpy, what has come out on the other end has been freeing, rejuvenating, grace-filled and full of divine peace worthy of our Creator’s love for all of life.

Robert Meagher has been ordained as an Interfaith Minister and certified as a Sacred Attention Therapy (SAT) Therapist. Robert is the Founder and Spiritual Director for Spiritual Guidance and Co-Founder of the Center for Human Awakening.